My New “Lucky Charm”

First dates freak me out. Especially if they’re with someone you’ve met online. There’s a lot of pressure involved with first dates as it is, but with online first dates there are two major differences. Usually, when you go on a first date it is because you met this person in a normal setting, or were introduced to this person by someone you know. With online dating you need to make sure that you are not about to meet an axe murder and do your research. I think it’s safe enough if you talk to the guy a few times via email/text/or on the phone before meeting. You can kind of feel them out and of course, since we’re living in an age where our entire lives are practically on the Internet, I can Google and Facebook them to complete my unofficial background check.  (Yes, I used those names as verbs.) If you get good vibes, plan the first date – Just be sure to pick a public place and let your BFF know of your location/plans.

The second thing one ponders while meeting a first date is, “Hmm, I hope I look the way I do in my profile, or the way he imagined I’d look”. No matter how many pictures I post, this thought always crosses my mind. I always remember how cheesy yet cute it was when I asked the Firefighter on our fist date if I was what he imagined based on my profile.  He said that I was much more beautiful in person.  (Insert heavy, reminiscent sigh.  Sigh over.  Moving on!)  Now of course, I liked hearing that but in the back of my mind I thought, “Oh no, I must take better pictures later!” This is where my best friends would tell me to silence that chubby girl voice and just go for it.

I recently went on a first date with a guy we’ll call Lucky Charm (He’s got some Irish in him so we’ll roll with that until a better nickname pops up.) Things with him went a little quicker than they have in the past. We really hit it off the first two weeks of talking through Match, email, phone and texting. I kind of shocked myself that I was the one that pushed for us to finally meet after only a few weeks (after he cleared my Google/Facebook, better-not-be-a-stalker background check, of course). He was nothing like the Firefighter and I really appreciated that.

Our first date was really cute. He was great in person- very cute, dressed well (kind of a cool-preppyish style), and was super chivalrous. We had a nice dinner then went to play miniature golf, which I haven’t in years. One of the things I liked about him is he was very into sports (not that I am, but I always wanted to date a guy who was because I felt I could easily fall into it). To give our Mini Golf game some friendly competition we made bets that after so many points we rack up one of us would have to give the other a hug, or something silly/cute like that. The game progressed, and I sucked. I’d like to throw in here that I blame all hand eye coordination issues on being left handed! Lucky Charm was racking up quite a few points and said that if he beat me, he would trade them all in for a kiss. I was surprisingly okay with this and it made me feel not so bad about sucking at miniature golf.  (Or, maybe that was my master plan?  Hehe…)

The game ended and he won by a landslide.  He took my hand and we walked back to his car. Now, I guess I should add in here that I am uber awkward in these situations and as you can tell from my love of fairytales and “meet-cutes,” I wasn’t about to just let him kiss me by his car.  I needed a better scene!

While aimlessly driving to our next stop, I argued that if we were playing Wii golf or bowling, I totally would have won.  He accepted this as a challenge and I (again, very surprisingly) suggested we go back to my place and play a few rounds. I was much better at Wii than Mini Golf, so much so that I ended up winning. After I won I finally let him kiss me and I loved the “scene”. He left soon after and I floated back to my couch. I decided that was the longest first date I’ve ever been on but I really liked it. I’ll keep you guys posted on how things progress with Lucky Charm!

Xoxo, V